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Posts by Daniel Sirstad

Grace or Disgrace?

If you had the choice would you prefer to receive grace or disgrace? I suspect, overwhelmingly, you would prefer to receive the former. Grace gives us a good feeling, disgrace not so much. A synonymous word for disgrace is shame. Nobody enjoys being disgraced or shamed. The most frequent New Testament word for grace denotes…

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Don’t Fake It Till You Make It!

The first time I remember hearing the phrase, “Fake it till you make it,” was at a MLM meeting over 35 years ago. The ‘preacher’ was on the stage doing a good job of working the crowd. People were on their feet shouting and clapping. Many of the people were already following the guy’s advice,…

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Building & Rebuilding Trust

As a young father of very young daughters, I would place them, one at a time, on our kitchen counter. When I was ready, I would tell them to jump, which they did and I would catch them. They would laugh and I would smile. It was a good time. As time progressed, I had…

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Indirect Behavior

Indirect Behavior

It is highly likely if you don’t have indirect behavior, somebody in your world does. I see it show up many times in various forms of relationship. One person assumes the other knows what they want because they are thinking it. The other person has no clue what is wanted since what is wanted has…

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The BIBLE

One of the songs I learned growing up in Sunday school was “The BIBLE.” It goes like this: “The BIBLE, yes that’s the Book for me. I stand upon the Word of God, the BIBLE.” When we sang the word “BIBLE,” we would spell it out. It was great fun. The Psalmist had much to…

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Selective Hearing

What is selective hearing? Selective hearing is a type of selective attention and involves the auditory system of the nervous system. Selective hearing is characterized as the action in which people focus their attention on a specific source of a sound or spoken words. So says Wikipedia. My first experience I remember with selective hearing…

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The Ministry Of Forgiveness

The ministry of forgiveness is an absolute essential in the experience of every successful marriage. Paul wrote in Ephesians 4:32, “And be ye kind one to another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” When a man and woman live as intimately as a husband and wife live, there are going to be…

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The Boiling Point

The boiling (anger) point of water is 212 degrees Fahrenheit or 100 degrees Celsius. Recently, I took a small saucepan and filled it halfway with cold water. I then placed the saucepan on one of the gas burners on the stove and turned the heat to medium high. With the excitement of a little boy,…

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No Trespassing!

No trespassing signs come in all sizes, shapes and messages. They are posted on public and private property. They are placed on large buildings and small alike. Businesses post no trespassing signs and so do home owners. A peaceful drive in the country will allow one to see no trespassing signs placed on the gate…

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Reversing The Ripple!

I remember, as a boy, how infatuated I would get by throwing a rock into a lake and watching the ripples appear one by one. At first, the only impact to the lake was where the rock landed. There was a splash causing great disruption. Then in quick succession ripples appeared. Each ripple impacted a…

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